Hi all - I'm wondering if any of you have advice about what to ak a partner, spouse, or other loved ones to say to you when they notice you are pulling and want to help support you to stop. My spouse often just tells me to stop, or says something like "no, no lovey" which somehow always makes me feel judged and is the opposite of supportive even though she's trying to say it in a supportive tone. Have any of you found things (words, gestures, etc.) that are helpful for loved ones to say that actually feel supportive and loving that help interrupt the habit and help you stop?